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Friday, 08 January 2010

Why Do They Let Known Criminals Loose?

I have been confused about this. When a person is arrested and gets let out on bail, they have a court date. When they don't show up for court a warrent is issued for them...sooner or later they do something bad and get arrested again, but are let out on bail AGAIN. If they didn't show up for court the first time, they wont show up the second, especially if its a bad crime. Example: A man has had approximately 3 warrents issued against him for not showing up in court from everything to not paying a federal fine to driving with no liscence to holding a knife to some guys throat...and to top it off, HE'S A FELON. Then there is an altercation between him and his girlfriend and when they run his name...it shows he's wanted for these warrents, they arrest him and then let him out on bail...AGAIN. Why don't they just keep him in jail until he goes to court and face ALL of these warrents plus any new ones? Wouldn't that be a good idea? This way they KNOW he will be in court to face all these charges and keep him off the streets. Kinda makes sense to me, but then again...like I said I'm a bit confused about this. If he doesn't show up in court the first time....he's not gonna show up the second, third, forth or even fifth time. Can someone please awnser me this???

Monday, 04 January 2010

What Do You Do About A Person Like This???

My husband's ex-whacko is back in New Hampshire and we live in Kentucky. We moved here because of her (and the economy) and all the problems she has created. She has a daughter by him who she has brainwashed into believing that we moved because we didn't want anything to do with her..(the daughter). She refuses to let us talk to her when we call, she has blocked us from her email and IM, she sends our letters and cards back and tells her that we never sent anything. This woman is pure evil. I know you just think I'm saying that because I'm the wife, but its not true. Let me tell you a bit about this woman. We know her family very well. First off, she has been saying for years that she can't work because she was raped by her grandfather because it has ruined her interaction with people. Maybe she was, the family says she's lying. There are 2 other girls in the family and they say they it never happened to them. But if she was or wasn't is beside the point. The fact that she is saying she can't interact with other people and can't work is the point. If she is so ruined then why does she go out to movies, dinner, shopping, etc...where there is so much interacting with people? She calims she has M/S and can't work also, but she spends all her time on the computer, out to the beach walking around, etc....I know alot more people with M/S who are very productive, hard-working, tax paying members of society. The state believes her so she is on welfare. She gets food stamps, medicaid, money, and housing. The state pays her electric bills and other stuff. They consider cable, netflix, and cell phones NOT luxuries. We pay her child support which is fine, but she uses it for everything BUT for the child. Then when the child needs something she calls upon my husbands mother and says that the child needs this, if his mother doens't have the money then for some reason or another she won't be able to see the daughter. She uses all her children like that. She has brain washed the kids into believing that her lies are the truth. If the children have a different opinion or choose not to believe her then they are betraying her and she considers them untrustworthy and outsiders. Her oldest daughter (20) came to our wedding and she banned her from seeing her own brother and sister because she "betrayed" her. Is warped I know, but its the god honest truth. When her oldest daughter (20) moved out and into the world, she decided to get her back and planted drugs in her bedroom claiming she found them when she was cleaning it out, she then called the cops when the daughter tried to leave saying that she beat her up. Granted the daughter punched her but only to get her off from her...the mom had sat on her, and she is NOT a small woman. Then she called the University where she was going to school and told them that her daughter was a druggie and doing crack. This girl is a great student so thank god the college DID NOT believe the mother. This is how warped the mother is. She wanted us to give her one more chance so we did. We were exchanging emails back and forth and it was all good. She asked us what we were planning to do for vacation and we said that we MIGHT go camping. We have a water park down here which cost $5.00 to get in and we bring our own food...thats the total cost...$5.00. So in all it cost us $15.00 for all day. Anyway we told her we go there to cool off a couple times a month when we have the day off. Next thing we know we are in court for new child support payments. She told the judge...WE GO CAMPING ALL THE TIME, AND WE GO TO EXPENSIVE WATER PARKS. The judge sided with her...wouldn't even give my husband a chance to correct what that bitch said. So they upped the payments by $5.00. Then she emails us and begs us to sign off on the child because the child doesn't want our last name anymore. We said we would think about it...then 2 or 3 days later she emails us again with this email: (see below)
NOW......
I WONT ALLOW YOU TO SIGN OFF..
SHE 1. DOESNT WANT TO BE CONNECTED TO YOU NAME WISE. 2. MOST IMPORTANTLY SHE WANTS TO FEEL INCLUDED IN A FAMILY SECT, WETHER IT IS THE NEAL NAME, SAME NAME AS JENJEN, OR PENNEY, SAME NAME AS MIKEY.
IF I NEED YOUR PERMISSION FOR HER TO SIGN A PAPER CHANGE HER LAST NAME ( NOT THE SAME AS GIVING UP YOUR RIGHTS, CUZ I WONT LET YOU GET OUT OF YOUR OBLIGATION , YOUR IN IT TILL SHE IS 18), I WILL SEND THE PAPERS, OR YOU CAN DO THE RIGHT THING AND HAVE A NOTE NOTORIZED AND SENT SO I HAVE IT WHEN WE GO TO HAVE IT DONE.

WE ARE NOT STUPID, YOU ARE READY TO SIGN HER OFF NOW BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO USE FOR HER NOW, YOU ARE READY TO THROW HER AWAY, SO PLEASE DO THIS ONE HUMANE THING AND LET HER CHANGE HER NAME, BUT YOU ARE NOT...NOT..NOT ..GETTTING OUT OF YOUR CHILD SUPPORT
All we said was that we would THINK about it. We never even gave a thought to signing off on her, we never would. She is my husbands daughter. Anyway our response to her was this: (see below)
YOU wont allow us to sign off on (daughter)? HA. YOU WILL NEVER ALLOW OR DISALLOW US TO DO ANYTHING THAT HAS TO DO WITH US AND OUR MARRIAGE. Sounds like you are borderline obsessive. Doug telling you that he will THINK about signing off on (daughter) when YOU begged him to was just a big ruse to let you get your hopes up so that we wouldn't be amazed or suprized when you pulled something like this. We weren't and are not going to sign off on her...ever. You talk of love for his daughter when you have no clue as to what love actually is. YOU will never demand we give her anything. YOU DO NOT DEMAND ANYTHING FROM US...EVER. (daughter) IS a WHITTEN...plain and simple. If doug is going to be paying for her until she is 18 years of age then she will be carrying the WHITTEN name until she reaches that age..then SHE can change it to whatever SHE wants. Besides, you are just lying, she doesn't even have a clue you are doing this.
You are the one who want something from her....her money from the taxes becuz you are a greedy, lazy, good for nothing, lying, manipulator.And you got what you wanted by lying to everyone around you including the judge. All you want that money for is so you can take your yearly trips to Florida and walk on the beach and interact with people. We all know you were never raped by anyone except in your dreams. If your so ruined for interacting with people then why do you party, go out to dinner, movies, and all the other things your fat fucking welfare sucking ass does.. You know it, I know it, and soon the whole world wide web will know it cuz of the letters you sent to doug...they are HIS property and he and I will be posting ALL the emails you ever sent to us along with our replies...(your name and the kids names have been removed). I have his written permission. DON'T EVER CONTACT US AGAIN UNLESS ITS THRU A LAWYER.
　
She starts all this crap then cries like a baby saying she didn't do anything and that everyone is just trying to start trouble and make everyone else hate her, and people actually believe her. Anything on paper she says was editted to make it look like she is the bad person here. What do you do about a person like this? We can't very well shut her out of our lives because she has his daughter and we want to someday have a relationship with is daughter again. Everyone lets her lie and crap then when she says sorry they forgive her and in a couple of weeks....does it all over again..and the cycle continues. She has been doing this for years and years. When does everyone say....NO, ENUF IS ENUF???? My husbands parents do it to see the grand daughter, family does it because she is thier sister. She is seeing a shrink, but she has been doing that for years and years and its NOT doing anything. She lies to the head shrink so she can stay on disabilty so she doesn't have to work....because she is "so ruined that she can't interact with people". What do we do. We are planning on moving back home in June and I know once we get back home she is going to start all sorts of trouble. When my husband first came home from Indiana to marry me, she went around telling everyone he had come back for here and that he was going to take care of her from now on....she even broke up with her current lover before he got home....when she found out he came home for me, she told everyone that I brainwashed him and he would soon snap out of it, when we got married she said I was still somehow brainwashing him and refused to let his daughter and her brother come to the wedding and they were sooo looking forward to coming to it..they were excited and she wouldn't let them go. . She created a fake myspace in my name in order to split us up....it didn't work. Soon after that we moved to Kentucky and then all that other bullshit started. So what do you do about a person like that???

Thursday, 31 December 2009

That Nagging Feeling You Get.

Did you ever get this nagging, yearning feeling in your whole body? Ever wonder what it was? I have that and have had that feeling for quite a while now. It took me sometime, but I finally figured it out. Its that little nagging feeling that is calling me home. God knows where you should be and who you should be with thru out your life and if you go off track, he puts this little feeling inside you until you listen to it and do something about it. My nagging feeling is calling me home. Back to New Hampshire and Maine to where I belong. Where all my loved ones that I cherish are. When doug and I first decided on moving to Kentucky it was because of three things. Big things or so we thought. 1) The economy sucked, no jobs up there, expensive renting, etc.. 2) His ex was causing more trouble for us...not between us...but for us. She was and still is so obsessed with getting back together with him..even tho he has told her 1000's of times that he cannot stand her and that he is with the person he loves and has always loved. (she was a piss poor stand in for me if I may add) and 3) My ex..I was newly divorced and he was looking to cause more headaches then any pill could take care of. So we up and left....BAD IDEA. I've never run from anything in my life and I don't know why I let them run us out of state, but thats about to change. We are going back...and GOD FORBID AND FORGIVE ME if they become a thorn in our sides again. I Never should have listened to that little feeling telling me (us) to just leave and be done with it. So sometime next spring...most likely when leah is done school here....(she gets out in may) we are packing our crap..and heading home. HOME....its a funny word.. Home can mean sooo many things. But for me it means where I belong...where my feet should have never left. My home is in New Hampshire and Maine. Thats where our families are , where are friends are and where everything and everyone we cherish is. Once I resigned myself to listen to that nagging little voice deep inside me then everything began to fall in place. Don't get me wrong... I do love Kentucky. I've met so many people that I love here. Theres D.C., Tyrone, Steve, and Brian at Incredible Dave's. They are the best friends anyone could ever ask for. They are funny and I love them. D.C. has taught me sooo much about food descriptions and how to sell it. Steve was my cohort fromt he start. Tyrone and Brian are just tooo funny and sweet to ignore. I love each of them and will never forget them. There is Bryan Springer, he has made my days a daves sooo fun. He's goofy and sweet and has that type of smile that says hes up to no good, and its awesome. And his girlfriend sara...she is sweet and good and pure from what I know of her. I wish I could have known her better But the one who I will miss more than anyone else down here is Angel McClain. She runs the coffee shop. She is the best friend anyone could ever have. There is so much love inside me for her that if I could and if she agreed, I would pack up her whole family and bring them all back with me. She has opened my eyes to many, many things. Made me see things in a different light. God there are soo many things I will miss down here, but....New Hampshire and Maine is where I belong. I'm a New England born and raised kinda gal and thats that. I'm sooo longing for home. For the battle I'm gonna face with the wacko ex's, but I'm ready. Guess I just need to step back, regroup and re-organize for a bit....Now, I'm ready for battle again. Never will I let them interfere or run us out again. Now, its payback time and I can only ask god for forgiveness on what I plan on doing. Nothing that is gonna end me up in jail of course. But, being in the resturant business in a small town, you meet some pretty good people who become not only customers, but true deep down friends as well. People who you want on your side in situations where you plan on paying back all those who have interfered or caused trouble in your lives. So when I get home and settled once again....they had better look the fuck out cuz Kelly Jean Whitten is back and all hell's gonna break loose. YEEEE HAAAAA. And its all because of one little nagging feeling that god put in my body.... one that I finally resigned myself to listen too. So to one person in a higher position than anyone else.... THANK YOU GOD. You knew I was stronger than those two idiots put together and you believe in me and know what I can handle and what I can do.

Monday, 28 December 2009

Our Pledge of Alliegence..

When I grew up, the Pledge of Alliegence was said every morning. We all got situtated into our seats and the teacher would quiet us down and then she would ask us to stand and reciete the Pledge of Alliegence. We would all stand, place our little hands over our hearts and recite it. We all used to giggle because the inevitable would happen and one of us would goof up and say the line wrong. Even our teacher would smile, but we would continue on until it was finished. Then she would ask us to bouw our head in a moment of silent prayer. We were supposed to pray, but we didn't, and the teacher could tell, because every once in a while you were hear a snicker or someone giggling. She wouldn't reprimand us or anything, she would just do a semi-loud "SHHHH" so not to interupt anyone that just may be doing what she asked. It took all of maybe 10 minutes out of our day and we would continue with the days school work. By the time we got out of grade school and into High School we knew it by heart, then we came to study the aspect of it. Its true meaning, or what it meant to us. I remember in 8th grade doing a report on what it meant. Not on a national scale, but what it meant to each and every one of us in the class. No one body was right or wrong. It was our opinion and our right to feel that way and we were not chastised for our beliefs. We were not "forced" to believe what the other students or the teacher believed what it meant. And we all got "A"s on our papers.
What it meant to me is this.
"I give my heart to our symbol of my homeland, and to all the people who live here.
We have this land that our lord gave to us to be used for freedom and equality for everyone."
Nobody brainwashed us into saying it. If we didn't recite the words then fine. It didn't warp our thoughts and it didn't affect us either way. But maybe it should have. It should have given us great pride and respect for our flag and its meaning and what our forefathers fought for. It should have instilled in us such a lesson that in the future when groups of people who come into our United States of America either legally or illegally to live would not force us to ignore our beliefs and our plege to the United States of America because it offends thiers. They come here in droves both legally and illegally, demand that we drop our beliefs and our plegdges because it offends them. They want to ram thier beliefs down our throats and just forget ours. If we say our Pledge of Alliegence it offends thier nationality, if we pray to our god, it offends thier religion, if we say whats in our hearts, it offends what they have in thiers. They come to OUR land and force THIER beliefs and religion on us. Why should we stand for this? Is it all in the name of equality? If it was then why are we being forced to keep our beliefs and religion quiet? Why are we being forced to leave our Plegde to OUR land behind so not to offend them? How is that Equality? If they want to pray to thier gods then that is fine, but DO NOT force us to bow to it. If they want to say thier Plegde the that is fine too, but DO NOT force us to believe in it. This is and will always be...THE UNITED STATES OF AMERCIA. The Land of the Free the Home of the Brave. least thats what I was raised to think. But lately its become The Land of the Slave to the Outsiders and the Home of the Pussies. Our Government which is supposed to be for the American People has become the voice of the immigrants and is forcing us to bow to thier wants and needs. To bow to thier gods and forget ours, to keep our thoughts and beliefs inside because it offends thier thoughts and beliefs. What has happened to OUR Home of the Brave? What has happened to OUR In God We Trust? What has happened to Our Pledge of Allegience to OUR Homeland? It was given to the Immigrants who come here legally and illegally so they could brainwash us and ram thier thoughts, beliefs, religion and Nationality down our throat and make us bow to them. This is UNACCEPTABLE. This is not Equality, its Brainwashing and Slavery. How do we get it back? We can only get it back by standing side by side and demanding that OUR Government, the very people we elected into office to help us, to stand for us and telling them..demanding of them to bring back our beliefs, our religion, our Pledge of Alligence back into our lives. Only then can we truely call this the Home of the Free and The Land of The Brave.
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